LOVE ISLAND - WEEK TWO - DAY THREE
Hello and welcome to your Daily Devos following our Love Island messages at 29:11! Take some time today to read through the scriptures provided, meditate on the lessons learned that are applicable for all of us from this week and journal your prayers. Have an amazing week 29:11 Church!
THEME SCRIPTURE:
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Genesis 2:18-24 NIV
TODAY’S PASSAGE:
Death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Proverbs 18:21a KJV
REFLECTION:
Better to live on a corner of the roof
than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:9
Better to live in a desert
than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
Proverbs 21:19
A study that was done by researchers at Stanford University studied the differences between the male and female brain. They were shocked with how different they were:
“These findings strongly suggest that what’s going on in a woman’s brain at rest is significantly different from what’s going on in a man’s brain at rest.”
I mean, did they really need a study to tell them that? Of course men and women think differently. Just ask any married person and they could have told you that and saved a lot of money! As funny as that might be, that’s how God designed us!
Strong / Sensitive
Fighters / Peacemakers
Fixers / Feelers
Builders / Connectors
God knew exactly what he was doing in creating both male and female. The design and how they work together is what brings beautiful harmony into our world. It was a purposeful design that they would compliment each other so well. The differences are beautiful and to be celebrated. Because both are reflections of God. Both created in the image of God. Both are needed in our world.
One sign of a world that is moving away from God’s design is when we try to ignore or deny that there are differences and even see them as a threat.
Wives can be mad that their Husbands don’t think like, feel like, or connect like them and they can get resentful about that. Resentment in our hearts always comes out and a lot of times it comes out in our words. This is why the writer of Proverbs thought of contentious, quarrelsome women in comparison to bad weather, a hot desert, and the drip from the room after a storm. The danger here is that instead of the home being a place where you find refuge in the midst of a storm the woman IS the storm. She is the bad weather and bad weather creates disasters.
THE RESULTS OF HARSH WORDS
lead to regret and condemnation… Matthew 12:37
stir up anger… Proverbs 15:1
bring ruin… Proverbs 13:3
offend and separate… Proverbs 18:19
brings bad reputation… Proverbs 25:10
THOUGHTS TO PONDER:
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Prov 31:26 ESV
As we ponder what Proverbs describes a woman of harsh words as, Proverbs 31 reminds us there is something extra powerful about the words that a wife speaks over her husband.
Wives have the ability to speak such life over our men. Wives can build husbands up with your words in a way that no one else really can. This is not just to say nice things with a sweet tone all the time and you got it. It’s more than a sweet tone, it’s more than saying the magic words. It’s gotta be more than changing how wives say something. It’s about a change in our heart. You can strive to change your outside behavior but the real transformation that needs to happen first is in your heart and mind.
THE POWER OF KIND WORDS….
are healing to the bones… Proverbs 16:24
strengthen… Job 4:4
turn away anger… Proverbs 15:1
teach kindness… Proverbs 31:26
make a heart glad… Proverbs 12:25
Reflect on the last time you used HARSH words instead of KIND words? What about a time when you could have used KIND words instead of HARSH words? Describe the difference in your heart posture in those moments. What were you feeling? What were you thinking? What was the difference in the results of the conversations?
